How do you break a bad boy addiction?

I received an e-mail today that has me thinking. I have been asked for advice by a stranger...

Dear Nico,
I've read your blogs about your relationship with LA and I am in a similar situation. I've known this boy since childhood, we've flirted back and forth forever and I'm hooked. I meet great guys, guys that treat me like a queen yet I can't get this boy out of my head. We've never officially dated, but whenever he calls I run no matter what. I know he's no good for me. My friends hate him, I hate who i am when I'm with him, but it's like I'm addicted.
How do I break the bad boy habit?
Sincerely,
Addicted

I'm not sure where to start. First off, my situation with LA is toxic. He was a bad habit that was extremely hard to break. I hate to admit it, but he still gets in my head and under my skin at times. It's hard for him not to, he knows me far too well. There's much to that story that I'll eventually tell I'm sure, but not today. When you're in a bad situation you know it, even if you don't really want to admit it to yourself. Sometimes everything needs to crash for you to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

Secondly I've had my heart broken, shattered, and torn to shreds several times, because of this I have an odd view of relationships. I try to protect my heart (or what's left of it) as much as possible. I build walls. I take things for what they are making no promises. At times I push people away. Because of this I don't feel I am in any position to give advice to anyone on relationships. The best I can do is hopefully help by telling you what I've learned. Please keep in mind my views on the subject are far from healthy.
Sometimes the little bit of happiness is worth the pain that follows, but you need to gauge this early and go into the situation with a plan b for when it shatters.
A friend of mine likes to say, "The best way to get over a man is under anther man." For some I'm sure this works, but I know this only leads to trouble for me.
In my case I have a friend on call with a big bottle of liquor and a shoulder to cry on.
Just because he's a good guy doesn't mean he's a good guy for you, and just because he's a bad guy doesn't mean he's bad for you. You need to do what makes you happy.
Try not to expect more then what a person can give.

With that, good luck Addicted.

Want my spin on your situation? Want me to ramble on about my twisted views? Send an e-mail, ask a question. nicokitten@gmail.com

Escaping The Friend Zone

One of my nearest and dearest.. we'll call her Miss. Savage, has come to me for help and I'm at a loss!

Miss. Savage is completely smitten with a boy.. we'll call him Mr. Cox, who she has been friends with forever. They like the same things, they both know that they have fun together, and thanks to alcohol they know that they can blow each others mind in the bedroom.

Sounds great right? Down side is since Miss. Savage and Mr. Cox have been such great friends Mr. Cox is also friends with her EX, and has witnessed her having a drunken make-out session with another mutual friend, lets just call him Mr. Steele. And, Miss. Savage has a habit of drunken texted Mr. Cox ... with pictures.

Oh, and since this isn't complicated enough as it is, both Miss. Savage and Mr. Cox have said the dreaded 4 letter word to each other (Yup the L word) and have said and texted on many occasions when apart that they miss each other.

Miss. Savage is now desperate for advice on how to tread with Mr. Cox to test the waters and see if he is as into her as she is him. I'm at a loss, I mean the obvious answer is to just ask, right? But, Miss. Savage isn't ready to put herself out there for fear of rejection.

So how can you find out if feelings are mutual without completely putting yourself out there?

**Duh.. no real names were used in the writing of this blog**