...or does being Confident make you Hot?This became the topic of conversation between my friend and I, his argument is a guy notices a girls physical attributes before anything else and if a girl is attractive more guys are going to be noticing and giving her attention which then gives her confidence. I disagree.
Attention is a sticky subject... Personally, I become a bit self conscious at times when I'm the center of attention. (something I'm working on) Of course it's awesome when a guy I like is paying attention to me, or texts me out of the blue to say "Hi" it makes me smile to know he was thinking about me. But, if I'm not so into the guy, or if he's a little too aggressive (like feeding me shots all night, or trying to manhandle me) he then turns from nice guy I'd be friends with into a creeper.
I believe that confidence makes a person more attractive. Physical attributes definitely play a role... They will catch my attention (hello ADD kid) but it takes much more to keep my attention. Someone can be insanely physically attractive, but if they lack personality, confidence, integrity, intelligence, or morals they begin to seem less attractive as time passes.
Being confident is more then believing that you are physically attractive. Everyone is unhappy with something about themselves, that's normal, it's cocky to say otherwise. (A little cockiness can be attractive... but too much can be a major turn off!) Confidence is being secure with yourself, flaws and all.
I was once afraid of people saying, "Who does she think she is?" Now I have the confidence (and courage) to stand and say, "This is who I am."
Hot is knowing how to enhance and properly display physical attributes. Aesthetically pleasing to the eyes, to put it another way. Sexy is all about confidence confidence. Beauty, however, is to know how to have a bit of all three and use it properly without overdoing any of the elements...
ReplyDeleteOkay... I did have something good to say before but my phone lost the post, so here goes take two.
ReplyDeleteComing from someone who personally has, but is trying to improve upon confidence issues, I know that that factor does play a significant role. If someone lacks confidence completely, it does prove to be a major turn off because it may show they have no drive or no ambition. I for example have problems with my self-esteem and just believing in myself, but I'm steadily working on it because I see how it effects me and other factors in my life, and I want to improve myself. But not change who I am... You should *never* change who you are.
To start, we do become attracted to someone based on verbal traits (i.e. humor, intelligence, common ground discovered through conversation(s) ) which creates in essence, confidence and increases a level of attraction. However, if you find the negative verbal traits appearing more fiercely in someone (i.e. cockiness, overly stubborn, close-minded, rude, overly obnoxious) then that creates a major turn off.
But the verbal cues the physical and yes, we do notice the cute features but these things only ignite and excite us to want to learn more. It creates a level of curiosity and makes us all the more interested.
So it is agreed that it is a combo, but there are many hidden features that cause more things to appear greater than what they appear to be. Whether they be good or bad.
Confidence in itself is sexy, it's a turn on... Everyone has flaws, embrace them, be comfortable in your own skin, in who YOU are. That is what makes a person truly beautiful.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I can't stand someone who fishes for compliments, or clones who they are after someone they see as the "popular" kid. Imitation may be the greatest form of flattery, but it drives me crazy. We live in a world full of sheep... I'd rather be called a freak, or weird for being different then to lose myself in conforming to what the latest trend is....
Exactly. I used to cringe at the thought of being called a freak or weirdo, but now I pride in it. I shine on the fact that I'm different and there's no one else like me. The people who consider themselves to be the in-crowd are boring because they have no individuality. They're all cut from the same mold, and have no substance. After all, the most talented artists and most amazing minds in this world had a hint or more of madness to them. So who says being sane is good?
ReplyDeleteI enjoy standing out. Let me be that bright red rose in a sea of white flowers...
@Naxos Erythrocyte I agree with your comment.
ReplyDelete@DerNachtRose do you realize all you've done with your comments is reiterate what Nico has said? A simple "Agree" would have summed up your entire post.
@Nico I believe a woman does need to be physically attractive to some degree, but also confident and intelligent. And if I may say, Nico.. you appear to be the embodiment of this. I hope the man that catches your attention is worthy of such a beautiful creature.
Baby girl you ooze sexuality and confidence, that's what's always attracted me to you, and those eyes and that smokin ass.
ReplyDeleteI've said it since the moment I met you all those years ago, you're 1 of a kind. Mesmerizing, and UnFuckingForgetable.
You hit the nail on the head, confidence is sexy.
Miss your ass Kitten ;) xoxo - Me
@TheBigBadWolf I love the pen name.. it's very fitting.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the compliments, you've made me blush... You are also one of a kind my friend... Miss you more then I should....
xoxo - Kitten
Beauty can fade with time, I find nothing sexier then an intelligent, confident woman.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I agree with TheBigBadWolf you are truly one of a kind Nico, completely unforgettable. Women want to emulate you, and men want to be with you.
@DerNachtRose are you currently on meds? It sounds like you should be. before you try to defend your sanity, go back and read the sea of contradictions you have posted strung along with a regurgitated version of Nico's post, and you might want to take a peak at the endless stream of @NicoKitten messages in your twitter stream.
ReplyDeleteHey Nico, you might want to start carrying mace, looks like you have a SWF on your hands.
Sorry, catching up on the posts...
ReplyDelete@Anonymous Thank you...
@Squirt I'll admit it took me a second to realize who you are... I'm flattered not only by your comments, but that you read my blog. Hope all is well in your neck of the woods.
@MeanGirl Umm WOW...You truly live up to your name. Nice movie reference, and thanks for your concern, but my temper is much too short for mace to be on hand... plus, they broke the mold after me,any attempt to recreate it has no hope of being anything more than a cheap imitation bound to turn your skin green..