...or does being Confident make you Hot?This became the topic of conversation between my friend and I, his argument is a guy notices a girls physical attributes before anything else and if a girl is attractive more guys are going to be noticing and giving her attention which then gives her confidence. I disagree.
Attention is a sticky subject... Personally, I become a bit self conscious at times when I'm the center of attention. (something I'm working on) Of course it's awesome when a guy I like is paying attention to me, or texts me out of the blue to say "Hi" it makes me smile to know he was thinking about me. But, if I'm not so into the guy, or if he's a little too aggressive (like feeding me shots all night, or trying to manhandle me) he then turns from nice guy I'd be friends with into a creeper.
I believe that confidence makes a person more attractive. Physical attributes definitely play a role... They will catch my attention (hello ADD kid) but it takes much more to keep my attention. Someone can be insanely physically attractive, but if they lack personality, confidence, integrity, intelligence, or morals they begin to seem less attractive as time passes.
Being confident is more then believing that you are physically attractive. Everyone is unhappy with something about themselves, that's normal, it's cocky to say otherwise. (A little cockiness can be attractive... but too much can be a major turn off!) Confidence is being secure with yourself, flaws and all.
I was once afraid of people saying, "Who does she think she is?" Now I have the confidence (and courage) to stand and say, "This is who I am."
